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If You Can Present Your Case with Facts and Logic and Without Whining, I Will Listen with an Open Mind

Teach your students that facts and logic are the only way to plead a case. Whining is never allowed.

My students have made the case for eliminating tests in our school, even in math. In fact, when my students want to present a case to me, I know to be fully attentive so that I do not get caught by surprise. They are very good arguers, able to make their position fully understood. (However, I cannot remember them just arguing with each other or with us as parents.)

“Will my answer change?” was my standard reply to my children when they repeated a request. For them, that meant “end of discussion” — Mom never changes her mind, unless you can come up with enough facts and logic to present your issue. When the request had nothing to do with facts or logic, the issue passed peacefully away — they did not whine, and I did not have to scold. My daughter later used that same line successfully on college friends, who did not understand how to ask for anything without whining.

Many times my children have convinced me of the wisdom of changing our plans. Why do we need to answer the questions at the end of the chapter? If they have already told me about the book they just read, do they really need to get frustrated trying to write it all down into a stuffy book report (that I do not want to read anyway)? If they get truly grossed-out even thinking about dissecting, is it really necessary to do it? (I have lived my entire life without anyone asking me if I have dissected anything.)

Reminding Myself of My Ultimate Goal

As a homeschooling Mom, I struggle with self-doubt. Are we doing enough? Are my children absorbing the right things? Yes, we have a very close family relationship, but are they learning what they need to be learning?

I have known many government-schooled students who never cracked a book, aced every test, and were involved in absolutely every school-sponsored extra-curricular activity available. However, those same students skulked through mixed-age groups, never looked anyone in the eye, and communicated with adults (if at all) only in monosyllabic grunts. (And people think my children will be lacking in social skills?)

I frequently need to remind myself that my goal is to produce functional human beings, not predictable test-takers. With the appropriate coaching, anyone can regurgitate answers onto a test paper, but what guarantee is there that those facts are relevant to real life? And how often do adults take tests? More desirable are the abilities to recognize a problem and determine its solution, do a satisfactory job on time in cooperation with those around you, and stand up as a productive, admirable citizen with an unshakable faith in God.

I often try to observe my own children as though I have never met them before. There I see young people who walk around with their heads held high, looking adults directly in the eye, and listening attentively while conversing in complete, articulate sentences. They recognize their surroundings and take responsibility for them — emptying the garbage when it is full instead of walking away as their banana peel slides off to the floor. I have received countless compliments from other adults who are astounded at minors who can communicate in a mature, intelligent manner.

My students may not be learning the same things as the students in government schools, but then again, I do not want them to learn the same things.

Tests, Book Reports, and Other Un-necessities

Tests are valuable only if you do not know what your student has learned. If Johnny spends 45 minutes telling me about something that only took him 20 minutes to read, he is ready to tackle the next thing. He does not need to waste time (his or mine) taking a test or writing a book report. Tests are great for a classroom of 30 kids and a teacher who has no idea who knows what. Unless you have an extremely large homeschool family, you probably have a pretty good idea of what is being learned.

It is my personal opinion that book reports should be banned. Reading books should be encouraged, but I do not want to ruin a budding love of reading by enforcing reports. Reading well-written books teaches by example: sentence structure, grammar (formal/descriptive and informal/conversational), spelling, punctuation, etc. A student who reads often and reads from a variety of sources will pick up a surprising amount by observation. Then, and only then, should they be expected to write.

My students participated in a co-op class in novel-writing (meeting twice a month for a semester). My daughter, a voracious reader, had little difficulty with descriptions, character development, etc. My son, who had read very little on his own at that point, struggled tremendously. He had great difficulty trying to put his thoughts on paper. His scene descriptions were awkward, and he felt every scene should be done with only dialogue. I eventually realized that he was not writing a book, he was writing a screenplay — he was more familiar with movies than with books and therefore wanted to use that format. I changed plans and rearranged my son’s assignments to include more time for reading and a greater variety of reading materials, emphasizing things of special interest to him. Sometimes I allowed him to watch a video, then read the book afterward, reasoning that knowing the plot ahead of time would help to keep his interest as the story slowly developed through the pages of the book. It worked. His reading speed increased dramatically, his comprehension level increased, and his understanding of grammatical rules increased.

After a couple of years of heavy-on-the-reading-time-but-no-writing lessons, I again brought in a serious writing assignment. Wow! What a difference! I actually had to (tactfully) ask him where the idea had come from for the paper, because I suspected he might have plagiarized it from a magazine article. Not the case. He had used a magazine article as his resource material, but it was an article he had read months before at the library and just used the facts from memory. (Several weeks into his first semester of college English composition, the instructor pulled my son aside and remarked, “You know you don’t really belong in this class — you already know how to write very well!”)

Educide

I have coined a new word — ed-u-cide: the killing of children’s minds through governmental indoctrination. Feel free to use it as needed. “I rescued my child from educide by beginning to homeschool him.”

What is the problem with homeschooling?

(This article was written by Jenny.)

Today I was in a class that was discussing President Bush’s “no child left behind” act which requires that children pass a test at 4th grade in order for the school to retain their funding and also Governor Vilsack’s proposed bill that requires every child to pass a test at 3rd grade in order to go on to 4th grade. The professor asked the class what changes need to be made to our education system in order for children to be able to learn what they need to know by grades 3 and 4 to pass these tests. She mentioned how children enter kindergarten with varied levels of skills, some know the alphabet, some can read a little, some can write full sentences already, and some are the children of immigrants and barely know any English at all.

Many students in my class offered suggestions for changes that included segregating boys and girls; offering special classes for those who are at, below, or above average learning levels; teaching all children all the languages of those in the class; etc. Being the bold supporter of homeschooling that I am, I raised my hand with the suggestion of homeschooling because:
1) children get individual attention suited to their exact needs
2) children can learn at their own pace
3) homeschoolers are not bound by standardized tests.

My professor immediately jumped on this one and asked the class “what is the problem with homeschooling?” Now, personally, I was unaware that there is a problem with homeschooling. I was homeschooled for seven years and had the public school education of elementary school to compare homeschooling to, and yet I found homeschooling to be incredibly superior. The students in the class all had an answer to why homeschooling was a problem. Of course I heard “socialization,” but to my surprise my professor thought the biggest problem was the lack of certification by homeschooled teachers. Now I do not know about you, but I would rather know that my child can read and is being taught by an uncertified teacher (myself), than have the “comfort” that although my child cannot read, her teacher is certified. I guess my professor has other ideas.

Lunch Will Be Served When the Math Lesson Is Finished

My daughter was recently describing this process to a middle-school-aged friend who was curious as to how a mom could possibly hold any meaningful authority over her student. When my daughter explained how we had used the incentive of “get done early, get lunch early; take extra time, wait for lunch until after the lesson is done,” the friend stated rather emphatically that that process simply would not work with her — she would just get her own food. “No, you don’t get it,” my daughter replied. “You’re not allowed any food until the lesson gets done.” The surprised friend humbly stated, “Wow. That would work.”

My point is simple: Mom as a teacher has a power unavailable to our government school counterparts: discipline. We can restrict privileges or inflict discipline as needed to enforce our authority. That was removed long ago from the government school system, and we have all witnessed the sad results. Since we are the parents of our own students, we know exactly what “punishment” will give the most effective results, and there are occasionally times when punishment is the only recourse for us to inspire a student. Lest you think me to be an incredible tyrant and unfit mother, let me also say that, much more often than threatening to delay lunch, I told my voracious reader that she was not allowed to read any longer this night, and the light must go out now. Moms, you are free to use the discipline that will produce the best results.

Every Day Is a Learning Day, and Life Is Our Classroom

Every day is a learning day, and life is our classroom. Do not let yourself get stressed out thinking that your students have to be working from a book to be doing school. Learning is also found outdoors, in everyday life, and many other places. You can count all that as schoolwork. There will be days when your students may want to do double workbook pages to make up for the time they’ve “lost” in doing outside activities, but do not think they have not learned from those activities. Even if we were kept away from our books, we were still learning very important lessons.

Life seldom follows a “routine.” In my opinion, homeschooled kids have a distinct advantage over their government-schooled peers by seeing first-hand that life is not the same day after day. My students and I once canceled our plans for an “Engineering Day” field trip to engineer a dam of bricks to divert the backyard’s melting snow away from its chosen path into our basement. It was definitely not “routine” and a very important lesson — both in saving the contents of the basement from a flood and in how to persuade water to take an alternate path. Any skill valuable in life is a subject worthy of your time to teach: laundry, cooking, comparison-shopping, auto mechanics, home repair, car-buying, button-sewing & mending, etc.

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